I suppose you doubt in him and you maybe think that he is cheating on you. You can never be 100% sure. [but japanese men tend to cheat a lot because they don't have the western Christian image of marrige or relationship. what is more they can love a few women at once. weird thing in my opinion.]

If money is not an issue then take a plane and at least visit him. You love him and if you don't want to loose him then you should take some action before it's too late.

If you have children your relationship would be even stronger . I guess you don't have such.
Anyway, don't loose hope.

This is amazing to find out how they act towards you. I can imagine it would be hard for me to adjust seeing as I am overtly confrontational person.

guys I'm so happy I can read something that I can totally relate to... I have a japanese boyfriend and he is seriously making me go crazy! I feel like Im starting to have a bipolar disorder or something! One moment I'd feel loved and then the next day I feel nelected so I cry like every other day and smile every other day OMG what the heck is wrong with him! So sometimes I make efforts like giving him a cold shoulder but OMG it never worked! I forgot! He's Japanese! these wont work! He was just like, why are you different? are you busy? why dont you message that much? dont you miss me anymore? LIKE OMG huhuhu I really dont know what to do!! I need help!!! I need a doctor! or maybe he needs a doctor!